If Only They'd Told Me Podcast

Jacqui and Nat discuss 'Raising Girls' based on the talk by Stephen Biddulph at the Parenting Place.

As Steve says: ‘A girl catastrophe is happening’ and that the world has ‘become a very toxic place for our daughters’.  In the podcast we outline some of his tips on how to keep girls feeling happy and positive.

  • Auntie Campaign - get some positive female role models in your girls life
  • Help them find and keep their Spark
  • 14 is the new 18!! Things are happening at a younger age (sexual pressure, body image issues etc)


Direct download: 50_Raising_Girls.mp3
Category:Parenting -- posted at: 1:21pm +12

Nat talks to long-time friend and mother-of-four Danielle Paterson. Danielle lives in Toronto, Canada with her husband Matt and boys age 5 and 3, plus 14 month old twins. They discuss pregnancy, parenting and relationships with twins and specifically:

  • Carrying and caring for twins 
  • Giving your other child(ten) the love and attention they deserve
  • Prepping tips and getting 'room ready' for life with twins 
  • The reality of having a baby in NICU (Newborn Intensive Care Unit)
  • Strategies and tips to make your life as easy as possible
  • Getting whatever 'help' works for you: nanny, friend, relative, groceries delivered, cleaner…
  • Products you need two of for twins:  carrier, exersaucer, bounciette
  • Twin-specific products: Double stroller, double  'my breast friend' feeding pillow
  • Looking after your self and relationship with twins plus more.

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Direct download: 48_Twins_Plus.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 5:32pm +12

Safe Sleep

Nat talks to Jude Clark from 'Change for our Children' about Safe Sleep.  The goal is to help reduce SUDI Sudden Unexpected Deaths in Infancy through greater awareness and practice. The 3 safe sleep principles are:

  1. Face up
  2. Face clear
  3. Smoke-free

They also discuss bed-sharing or 'co-sleeping', sleep aid products,  blankets, positioning, and how safe sleep changes with developmental stages.


Direct download: 48_Strategies_for_Safe_Sleeping.mp3
Category:Parenting -- posted at: 12:00am +12

Jacqui and Nat go out on the town and catch up with mother-of-two fashion store owner Kelly Coe about her gorgeous garments at 'Augustine International'.

Kelly gives us some tips on how to be a stylish mummy. It's all about getting out of the rut and embracing colour and shape by swapping your T-shirt for a floaty top or tunic. Dress it up with a chunky necklace or bag or dress it down by going accessory-free.

Having a style consult with a 'personal stylist' who takes into account colours, shapes and styles that best-suit you is another great way to look and feel great.  Rebecca and Megan from The Style Company http://www.thestylecompany.co.nz  highlight the impact of 'illusion dressing' where you draw the eye towards your best features and away from your 'flaws' or your least fave parts of your body.

It's so easy to get overwhelmed and consumed by motherhood so spending some time on yourself is important and often a bit of a luxury. Balance all that with surrounding yourself with great friends and enjoying the moments with your kids and you're bound to be a happy and stylish mummy.

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Direct download: 47_How_to_be_a_Stylish_Mummy.mp3
Category:Style -- posted at: 8:43am +12

Direct download: 46_Thriving_After_Seperation.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:50am +12

45: Top Tips for Water Safety and Keeping Kids Swim Safe

Top Tips for Water Safety and Keeping Kids Swim Safe

Keeping kids safe around water is a major for all parents.  Nat talks to Lynn Cartwright, the Swim School Coordinator at Glen Innes Pool in Auckland, New Zealand.

What age should kids start and stop swim lessons?  How can we get kids more prepared and give them survival skills for being safe at the beach, river, lake and at home?

Top 5 tips:

  • Supervision
  • Proximity (Be there) 
  • Awareness and Knowledge
  • Water safety skills
  • Know your child's ability

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Direct download: 45_Top_Tips_for_Swim_Safety.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:45pm +12

How do you tell the difference between 'the baby blues' and true post natal depression? Everyone seems to know someone who's had it.

It's a slightly different tone on If Only They'd Told Me this week, as Jacquie shares a moving, real story of a family who has been through Post Natal Depression. 

Find out what happened and how you can recognise the signs in yourself and in those you care about. 

Some signs of post natal depression include:

  • Uncontrollable crying
  • Loss of interest in things you previously interested in
  • Negative thoughts
  • Self blame
  • Severe mood swings
  • Feeling numb
  • Feeling isolated
  • Tiredness, including desperately wanting to sleep, but not being able to
  • Thoughts of self harm or harming baby

ANY of these should be a warning signal. Get professional help or talk to someone if you have even one symptom. 

If you have a story (your own or someone you know of) and it would be helpful for others to know, we'd love to hear from you…



Direct download: 44_Post_Natal_Depression.mp3
Category:Parenting -- posted at: 10:42am +12

Part 2 of 'Parenting Twins'  

Michelle and Tim share their tips and stories about having twins.

Nat picks up where she left off last time by asking, about having twins, "do other people 'get it'?"

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Direct download: 43_Twins_Chapter_2.mp3
Category:Parenting -- posted at: 2:43pm +12

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Direct download: 42_Get_it_Done_Mum_Coaching_Club_for_Mumpreneurs.mp3
Category:Work -- posted at: 2:22pm +12

For the first time we have a couple in the studio together and they are talking about parenting twins. However their entertaining stories are relevant to all parents. 

Michelle and Tim have 7 year old, identical twin boys. They've made it through the 'early years' and they share some of their tips, coping strategies and experiences.

While Tim suggests booking friends who offer help, in to a specific time and date to help get through the 'dark ages', Michelle recommends writing a 'letter to yourself' at the end of your pregnancy, to look back on.

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Direct download: 41_Parenting_Twins_Chapter_1.mp3
Category:Parenting -- posted at: 9:24am +12